A reader sent me an email asking me how can I get my ex boyfriend back? We broke up last week over some really petty argument and now I miss him like crazy. Please help!
Unfortunately, this kind of scenario is not all that uncommon. So let me share with you what I was able to tell this reader.
I promise you that no matter how down you may feel right now, your situation is not hopeless. I assure you there is a really good answer to that unpleasant question, “How can I get my ex boyfriend back?”
The first thing to determine is if your relationship is worth saving. While many relationships can be given CPR, not all are worth it. However, getting your ex boyfriend back is usually just a case of knowing what to do…and more importantly, what not to do.
I am going to let you in on a secret. This could easily come across as a little sexist, but here we go. Men are driven by their ego…and some more so than others. However, all men love it to a certain degree when you appeal to their ego.
So what does that mean for you? It means that you should stop asking can I get my ex boyfriend back and start asking how does a man’s ego change my approach to getting him back.
Usually, the natural reaction for someone who really misses their boyfriend is to chase after him and follow him around while you try to get him back. While this seems like the right thing to do, it actually produces an opposite effect.
These acts of desperation stroke the male ego. Many guys relish the idea of an ex (especially if you are the one who dumped him) follow them around begging for the leftovers. Please try to avoid this trap.
You have to keep your dignity while going through the process of trying to get your ex boyfriend back. As you do this, your confidence will build and the process will become easier.
With all that said, let me walk you through a scenario of what it might look like as you go through your journey to answer your question of how to get my ex boyfriend back.
First and foremost, if your breakup is fresh, wait. Do not chase him and tell him that you miss him and love him and cannot be without him. Let him have his space and think about what the two of you had together.
Let him come to the realization that he misses you and wants you back in his life. Then you’ll be able to let your feelings be known.
If a little time has passed since the breakup, and he’s already gotten to the point that he knows he misses you, then contact him casually and ask him to meet for coffee as friends.
The main reason behind doing this is simply to remind him of the good times that you both had together while you were dating. Hopefully, this will open the door for your reconciliation and will be the first step toward rebuilding your relationship together.
While this is a great first move, I know that most people have been trained to think that really good things are extremely hard to get. That’s why you may think that this could never happen for you. Just because the advice is simple, does not mean that it will not work. In fact it usually works very well and will answer your question of how can I get my ex boyfriend back?
