What Does Let's Just Be Friends Really Mean?
You must not confuse keeping in touch with the famous ‘let’s be friends’ line. So often someone who hears let’s be friends begins to panic. In reality, this statement is very neutral. The real clue you must look for is how much contact your ex has with you after the breakup.
If your ex says let’s be friends and then has no contact with you whatsoever, you have some work ahead of you if you intend to get back an ex.
On the other hand, if your ex says let’s be friends and then follows that with regular phone calls, text messages, IM, or surprise visits that means something totally different.
[Important Note: If you have kids, pets, or common property then any contact regarding those issues should not be considered keeping in touch. If, however, conversation regularly veers off into other topics this should be viewed as keeping in touch.]
There are typically two reasons for contact. The first reason is very bright and happy. Your ex truly fears losing your friendship and still sees potential for the relationship. This scenario is usually more rare.
The second reason is not as happy and bright, but there still is a silver lining to it. This reason is that they want to keep you close as a backup plan.
1. Their current relationship (sometimes secret) doesn’t work out.
2. Nothing better ever comes along as anticipated.
While finding yourself in either one of these situations seems less than appealing, you must remember the bright spot. The fact that your ex is keeping you close is because you are still their #1 romantic interest. They may not want to feel this way or ever admit it.
However, as long as they keep you close and are unsure of their future without you, they still see you as #1. This is extremely favorable for you as you attempt to get an ex back. Here’s a proven system that will help you Get An Ex Back.
