Have you just received the infamous breakup text message? Ok, so maybe it was a breakup text, maybe it was a phone call, or even a breakup letter. I only mention the breakup text message because this seems to be an increasingly popular way of breaking up. No matter what the method, the real concern is how you can deal with this bad news.
Here’s a few practical pieces of advice that you can put into place right away to help your difficult situation. Try your very best not to panic or fight back. Take a step back and remain calm. Here’s why.
When you react out of fear or panic, you tend to do and say things that are destructive to your future chances of getting back together after a breakup. These actions often confirm the decision of your ex to breakup and may drive them further away.
Ok, so here’s what to do after you calm yourself and regain your composure. You must agree with the breakup. Yes, that’s right. Agree with the breakup. By doing so, you appear calm and mature to your ex.
Look at it this way. If a mangy, starving mut shows up at your door, are you likely to want to take him in and feed him and care for him? Probably not.
However, if a well-groomed, well-fed dog shows up at your door, you are more likely to take it in and care for it while you look for the rightful owner. Right?
The same principle applies between you and your ex. If you can remain calm and show that you are ok with the breakup, you come across as the well-groomed dog. This will definitely help you down the road and allow you to work a plan of reconciliation for getting back together after a breakup.
If you act out of panic and fear, you will be seen as needy and much more like the mangy mut. This makes it far more difficult to make up in the future.
Here’s a terrific 9-minute video that shows how to make your first move after the dreaded breakup text, phone call, breakup letter, etc. This is what you must do!
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